nizing the gifts? What about ushers? Relay this to your maid of honor and best man, who should be responsible for divvying up these tasks. Your helpers should not go rogue and plan a surprise on their own (no kidnapping the groom the day before his wedding, as one Reddit user recounted). Likewise, as the marrying couple, don’t spring any new responsibilities in the final hours (or minutes) on your people—while some things can’t be helped (like a medical emergency that requires an ambulance), your desire to have different-colored tablecloths at the last minute can be. For the Bridesmaids and Groomsmen: Plan the Pre-Party If all goes well, you should know what the bride or groom wants to do before the big day. Stick to the plan. If you’re renting out a venue, make sure you inquire about its availability months in advance. If the party is at your house, make sure it’s stocked up with plenty of snacks. Help with Invitations It may be old-school, but most wedding invitations are still done via regular mail. Be prepared to stuff those envelopes. It’s a tedious but critical job. Just Be There The most important task is to be there for your best friend, physically and emotionally. Show up on time (or better yet, early) to all events. Nerves will be at an all-time high, so lend an ear when they just need to vent. Be the Point Person Wedding guests will have questions. Whether they’re looking for the bathroom, or they need a band-aid, you should be the on-site expert. Stay positive, because negativity is contagious. After the Wedding Make sure you return the suit and dress rentals on time—some rental businesses have strict return policies. If the couple goes away on a honeymoon, frequently check on their house (piled-up mailboxes are an open invitation for thieves). Assist with the thank-you notes post-wedding. Above all, you must remember: A wedding is a party. It should be a joyous occasion. Enjoy the fruits of your labor. Eat cake, toast with Champagne or something sparkly, hit the dance floor and grab the last shuttle home. And maybe treat yourself to a vacation a few weeks later. BRIDESMAIDS + GROOMSMEN MICHAEL DADULA 32 THE BEST OF MONTEREY BAY ® WEDDING GUIDE 2025-2026 Downtown Santa Cruz 1301 Pacific Ave (831)460-9696 Capitola Mall 1855 41st Ave (831)477-1932 Capitola Village 214 Capitola Ave (831)462-9696 Old Sacramento 1100 2nd St (916)443-2801
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