sen to be by their side, what is that responsibility? For the Couple: Pick the Right People for the Job Choosing who will stand by your side throughout the process is almost as important as the decision to marry in the first place. Generally, you want to have the same number of people on both sides—if there are five bridesmaids, then the groomsmen should be equal in number. It depends on the size of the wedding. But who will these people be? Remember, they play a critical role in making sure the only hitching happening at your wedding is when the rings are slipped onto the rightful fingers. Or at least, they will solve any problems as efficiently and drama-free as possible. Who can you rely on? If your best friend has a pattern of showing up late to gatherings, perhaps they are not fit for the job, despite how much you may love (or lovingly hate) them. Siblings are an obvious choice for not only groomsmen and bridesmaids, but also best man and maid of honor. However, the same rules of reliability still apply. It comes down to who you trust, and who has worked to gain that trust. How to Ask You should now have an idea of who you want as your bridesmaids and groomsmen, but whether they will actually be able, or willing, to take on the role is another story. The rule of thumb: just ask. If you are at this point in your life, chances are you’ve already experienced rejection, some perhaps more than others. You should also ask in person. Never do it over text or email, but a phone call is acceptable only in extenuating circumstances (i.e. the person lives far away). A gift that goes along with your ask also doesn’t hurt, especially if it’s usable for the big day itself, such as cuff links or other adornments. Set Reasonable (and Clear) Expectations Before you set your expectations, you need to define roles, namely the maid of honor and best man. The best man is in charge of the groomsmen; while the maid of honor leads the bridesmaids. The roles last before, during and after the wedding. Where, when and for how long will the bachelor (or bachelorette) party be? Know what you want and be specific in your instructions—a typed document outlining the plan does wonders here. Is there someone in charge of securing the clothing rentals, or orgaBRIDESMAIDS + GROOMSMEN RYAN CHARD SMITH 30 THE BEST OF MONTEREY BAY ® WEDDING GUIDE 2025-2026 NATURE BOAT TOURS Safari ELKHORN SLOUGH
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